The Forum Magazine
Al-Anon's monthly magazine, The Forum, contains many personal stories of inspiration, some of which are made available each month on the Internet by authorization of Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc.
I’m constantly looking back on where I’ve been and why. What appeared as liabilities often turned out to be advantages. Growing up in an alcoholic family was such an example; it was most certainly a liability, until my recovery in Al-Anon turned it into a gift.
I’ve been coming to Al‑Anon meetings for four years, but wished I’d found them years ago. I was not raised in an environment of addiction, but I did marry into one. Addiction ended our marriage and, as a result, I’ve had custody of our son since he was six years old. Even though we were divorced, we remained close and my son visited with his mother every day. When my son was only 13 years old, I found his mother dead because of her addiction. I never thought that my son would turn to drugs and alcohol, since he knew how addiction had destroyed our family.
When I first came to Al-Anon, I struggled with the concept of detachment. I was filled with fear and worry for my loved one. The thought of taking a step back from his problems seemed wrong to me. How could I let go at a time when it seemed he needed me most?